The Truth About Being Engaged in College

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If you told me at 12 I would be engaged at 22 I would’ve said - I hope so! But if you told me my freshman or even sophomore year of college that I would be engaged before I graduated I would’ve laughed right in your face - no wayyy.

A little background: I grew up with lots of cousins on my mom’s side who are older than me and was so lucky to see them find love, get engaged, married and have babies young. My parents were engaged right out of college and married a year later. So growing up ‘21’ felt like the time you just got married and then you had babies. I don’t think I realized that I was surrounded by that culture and in mainstream culture today there is no “correct” timeline for people to be engaged and have babies.

So here I am having my 12 year old dream come true, but I will admit sometimes it is a bit crazy. For one, being engaged is something that I thought would make me feel grown up. Like, BOOM ring on the finger my life is figured out. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I know I love Jon. I know I can’t wait to call Tulsa home, but last night I also ate a family size bag of pretzel M&M’s for dinner? AKA I am working on the grown up thing.

That being said I love that not a lot has changed. Yes I now have something that is a promise forever on my hand, but when I started classes this quarter it was business as usual. I defiantly caught myself being conscious of my ring (especially in my mostly freshman art class) but overall no one seems to pay much attention to it - or me!

While a lot of my family may have gone down this path it is defiantly rare at the University I attend. I know of one other girl who was engaged in college and married shortly after graduation. My friends are SO supportive but a lot of them still want to just be seniors in college (which I do too, I just don’t need to hit up the single bars). I was talking to Jon’s sister about her southern school sorority and how there are at least 10 girls engaged before graduation and it defiantly made me think - would I even be writing this post if I didn’t attend my school?

Bottom line for me is I truly don’t care what other people think about this. I am so confident in Jon and I’s decision to take the next step that all the negative thoughts in the world couldn’t bring me down about this one. I also have been overwhelmed with the acceptance and excitement I have been greeted with about this step from my friends, family and especially my sorority. In times like these the positive over shines ANY negative.

This was a bit of a mash up of thoughts, but I wanted to be honest with you guys. I am 22, engaged and HAPPY but I am also just a college student trying to get to graduation so I can start my life with my fiancé.


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